When They Choose Not To Be Your Friend, It Is Not Your Loss But Theirs

Following the scolding incident with Phoebie, my firstborn, early this week, I decided to talk to her before she went to bed that night. I asked her if everything was ok in school, and while she said nothing at first, she eventually said that Jessica (not her real name)has been asking Jane (also not her real name) not to be her friend and she was upset.

As it was bedtime and I wanted her to go and sleep, I briefly talked to Phoebie about classmates missing out on what a blessing Phoebie is.

The following morning, I felt like I shld talk to her about this again, and so on the way to school, I brought the topic up.

I told Phoebie that when she reads the Bible, she will notice that Jesus was well loved by many, but there were also those who didn’t like him and even asked ppl not to like Jesus. These ppl were jealous of Jesus and wanted everyone to stop liking Jesus.

I told Phoebie that Jesus was unwavered by those who disliked Him and continued to be a blessing. At the same time, He didn’t show off to those who didn’t like Him, but remained humble and forgave them.

So I reminded Phoebie that even if Jessica doesn’t seem to like her and even ask others not to friend her, she can choose not to be affected and continue to be a blessing.

I’m not too sure how much of what I shared got into Phoebie (because it was early in the morning), but I pray that she received the assurance.

Adults can get very affected by friendship issues, let alone children. I can imagine how affected Phoebie must be because I recall myself being like her back when I was in primary school. My parents, however, typical of their generation, never spoke to me about how I could manage how I felt about my friends.

I pray that as I guide Phoebie along, she can see things in a different light, and know that she cannot please everyone or have everyone like her. She can however, still be happy with who she is and what she has.