I love being a stay home mum. Well, on most days at least.
I wonder though, if I am the only stay home mum who will question my worth staying at home. I don’t doubt my decision every day, but it comes up every now and then.
I question my worth staying home when I see family and friends do well in their careers or businesses.
Don’t get me wrong. I’m not envious of them. In fact, I am happy for them and proud of them that they achieve what they have. After all, for most of them, they had to put in a fair share of sweat and hard work too.
But I look at them and I wonder, could I have become someone more? More achievements and more financial sources.
It’s not like we lack a lot of money at home. My husband earns enough for us to live comfortably. We have a roof over our heads and we have decent meals every day. I must also say that it is all thanks to the financial stability my husband provides that I can stay home with the kids.
I told my mum how I felt about questioning whether I could have done more if I didn’t stay home.
“Are you crazy?”, was her response. “Who will look after your kids?”
I jokingly replied, “You. And then I will give you what I earn.”
While I laughed it off with my mum, I knew she was right. Who will look after the kids?
Of course I know there are many options to that question. There’s always a childcare centre, getting a nanny or a domestic helper. Deep down, I know both my husband and I wouldn’t have wanted it any other way.
When I shared my doubts with my friends, one of them said, “Being a stay home mum is NOT easy! You are doing well!”
I can’t say if I am doing well but she’s right that it isn’t easy. On those crazy days when both kids decide to be difficult at the same time when I am cooking dinner, oh man!
But for the most part of it, I enjoy being a stay home mum. As much as I wish I could contribute financially to the household, I know that no amount of money is going to buy me all that precious time watching my kids grow up. Because I am home with the kids, my husband can also go to work knowing that he doesn’t have to worry about the household.
Of course, as a freelance events emcee, I also enjoy the occasional job that allows me a little breather and do another thing that I love. The job gives me some me-time, and gives the kids an opportunity to depend on someone else to look after their needs (and it’s usually their father).
I guess when moments of doubt pop in my head, I really need to at a good long look at my kids.
As I write, a baby is sleeping in my arms like it is the safest place in the world.